Saturday, May 21, 2011

Two years . . .

I remember it well, my fourth child and my longest labor . . .Henry was born after 13 hours and I laughed when I saw his thick jet black hair.  Whoever said that kids with thick hair give you heart-burn was right, I had the worst heart-burn of my life when I was pregnant and Henry of course he had severe GERD and colic.  I'm not sure what the hair has to do with it, but that old wives tail may have a bit of truth to it!  The neat thing about Henry is that he was the answer to my oldest daughter Hannah's prayer to have her baby brother born on her birthday.  And so today she turns seven and he turns two.
 
I sit in awe today, and waves of nostalgia wash over me.  I've been a mother for 7 years.  How did that go by so quickly.  I remember when I brought my first daughter out in public as a newborn.  I remember a mother I met in the store; "I remember when my children were that little . . . it goes by so fast, cherish it." she said.  Her words stuck with me, the longing in her eyes warned me of a time in the future, when I would actually miss those nights of sleep deprivation, nursing and rocking a newborn.  She was right, it was gone in a blink of an eye.

I sit in wonder and awe that God choose me to be the mother of these precious and beautiful children.  Me, a flawed , impatient and imperfect person.  He gave me these beautiful, spirited, funny children, a gift beyond anything I could have ever imagined in my life.  I am indeed blessed.

The past two years has gone by faster than any previous years.   It was like a world wind of tests, doctors visits,  fears and worries.  It was a pit of darkness and nearly despair, and a wilderness of unknowns and a deep thirst for answers.   At times I was gripped with panic and despiration, the terrible helplessness in not knowing what was wrong with my son, or how to help him.  Some questions are still unanswered.  Why is Henry still aspirating?  Why is he still underweight?

I've had him on an elimination diet for over 6 months.  His stomach issues have improved, it's not quite perfect, but the diarrhea is mostly gone.  He still has to drink liquids very thick, or else he coughs and his chest gets rattly and congested with aspiration.   In case you were wondering, we chose to hold off on the swallow study, and yes the allergy testing too.   Maybe you wonder why.  Well, Henry doesn't have any symptoms of true allergy, he has "intolerance's" to many foods.  He has had blood work in the past, as well as skin testing when he was younger.  When I give him dairy he doesn't swell up or get hives.  He has diarrhea;  he burps and has a lot of reflux sounds in his gut.  So  I opted to not put him through any more testing as of yet and to try to continue on this diet.  Also, he has had at least four swallow studies in the past year.  All of which showed that he was still aspirating.  I wanted to give his body more time to heal from the inflammation that might have been caused by food intolerance or the FPIES that he was recently diagnosed with.  The doctorsfeel if he has not outgrown his pseudo-laryngeal cleft (Cincinnati children's determined that he has something LESS than a type one cleft which is the smallest size cleft) that they would attempt to sew up the grove in his larynx in hopes that this would stop his aspiration of thin liquids.  I guess, I am not quite ready to do the surgery.  I have seen some progress in little Henry, and when given small amounts of water with a cup, in which I can control the sips, he doesn't choke unless he takes it too fast.  The confusing part is Henry's aspiration is silent, so we usually don't see the signs of it right away, until a few days later when he is sounding "gunky" in his throat like he has to clear it, he also starts sneezing a lot and then coughing and much later wheezing.   In other words, I am not convinced that a surgery would fix Henry's aspiration.  If have learned anything about aspiration in the past two years, it is that there are many reasons that a child aspirates, it is not always as clear cut as having a laryngeal cleft.  Sometimes surgery helps, other times, there are more things involved, such as reflux or GERD and in Henry's case also food protein intolerance.  I am not fully convinced that a surgery will "fix" him.

All this to say, that we are sort of in a holding pattern.  I am okay with this.  Last year on Henry and Hannah's Birthday I called 911 because Henry was gagging and going limp.  It was a horrible day.   Looking back on it, I think he was possibly having a delayed reaction to the food he had eaten earlier, but it took me nearly several months to find out that he had FPIES (Food Protein Induced Enterocolitis Syndrome).  It has been a long, rocky road.  I have been  tried  and stretched and today I am a thousand times thankful for today:  the present moment.  Today my son is rosy cheeked and happy, today he is eating and drinking by mouth and not by G-tube like he was last year, today he is making funny faces and running around the house being a normal toddler.  Today he is off ALL of his medications, he is not wheezing, he is not at the hospital.  He is home.  I know that others who read this are not were I am yet, I maybe you are at the beginning of the journey to answers and hope.  Henry is not perfect, there are many foods he cannot eat, he cannot drink liquids without thickner, but I choose to look at all that he can do and all that we have today.  I hope to give you hope for a better tomorrow.  I hope that my today will be yours soon.

2 comments:

  1. I am so happy to read that Henry is in a better place today than he was a year ago on his birthday! It's definitely a LONG and ROCKY road, but it seems as though your journey with Henry has taken a turn onto the right path. It's frustrating at times, scary during others, but when they are doing well it's the BEST feeling in the world!!! Happy Birthday, Henry, and Happy "Birth"day to you too Kristina! Keep up the good work and please keep me posted. Henry WILL be okay!!! Sending hugs! xo Michelle

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  2. I'm so thankful to hear about Henry's progress. God is good to bring you all through this long road. Happy birthday to Hannah and Henry - that's special that they share the day! Your kids are all beautiful & fortunate to have wonderful parents!

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